Help With A Family Dilemma

[HomeschoolrsRUs]

Mind if I borrow a little advice from y'all? I have a situation that I just don't know how to handle (other than with prayer). Please forgive me while I slip into my "Edith Bunker" personna --- I gotta tell you the whole story to get to the point in the matter.

Here goes:

New Year's Eve we were over visiting Bubba's Grandparents, and something interesting came up in a conversation. Bubba's Gramma and I were discussing (actually, she was discussing, I was bemoaning, LOL) my son's recent driving status. He would be soon receiving his learner's permit (if we could ever talk him into taking the test -- well we finally did, and he passed, yippee!). I was saying how shocked I was that my li'l Bubba didn't take some extra money he stashed away to buy a used fixer-upper car to work on with his dad, but instead bought a palm pilot.

Anyway, Bubba's Gramma said my son should have plenty of money by now to buy a good used car, and that I should talk to Bubba's Mama about it. Gramma said every year since li'l Bubba and li'l Bubbette were born, she purchased two savings bonds per year: 1 for their birthday, and 1 for Christmas. Gramma said, she didn't actually purchase them, but instead gave the money to Bubba's Mama to purchase them to give to us (li'l Bubba's parents) to put away for just such a purpose.


Well, needless to say I was shocked! I know we had gotten a few bonds over the years, and indeed we did put them in our fire-safe for the kids, but we NEVER received 30 for my son (he is 15 - and we have 6) or 26 for my daughter (she is 13 and we have 3). Well, I didn't tell Bubba's Gramma that we hadn't received as many as she thought. I actually didn't know WHAT to do.

So the question, now that you know the situation: Do I (or Bubba) confront Bubba's Mama about the missing bonds? Do we tell Bubba's Gramma we never received them all? I guess, bottom line, how do we handle this situation?


Thanks in advance for your thoughts.

[Wolfcounsel]

You tell the truth.

[HomeschoolrsRUs]

You tell the truth.

To whom?

[Wolfcounsel]

To the persons involved.

[Beowulf]

Definately tell the truth to those involved. I don't know how your family is but I do that frequently and they can't stand it on the in-laws side of things. (I often address my SIL's drug problem that everyone makes excuses for) I wish you luck as telling the truth and speaking my mind to them has made me a black sheep, not that I care but you seem to be more family oriented than I am.

[DesertFox]

Leave it alone. Bubba should know, but what he does is up to him.

[UnkHiram]

Homeschool

If I was you, I would have Bubba ask his mom about it. There is no way I would tell Granma Bubba that her daughter had "Forgotten" to purchase the bonds. No reason to hurt the lady.

[HomeschoolrsRUs]

Wow, this is a tough crowd, LOL.


I am leaning toward believing that I should keep my nose out of the whole situation --- the only thing that concerns me is that this information was shared in front of my son, who has asked me several times how much money he has in bonds in the firesafe. I have told him how many we have, he wants to know where the others are. I have told him, I really don't know---which is the truth.

This is really sticky--- we live right next door to Bubba's Mama. I feel Bubba should talk to her first, and not his Gramma, to see if maybe his Mama has the bonds, and just forgot to give them to us. He is worried about "rocking the boat" in case Gramma's memory isn't as good as she thinks and she hasn't really given Bubba's Mama as much as she thinks. Also, Bubba is afraid of catching his Mama in a lie, or worse that she spent the money instead of using it for the kids as Gramma wanted it to be.

I am not one who likes to suffer in limbo ... I like to get things out in the open, get them overwith, so precious time is not wasted. I just don't know what move would be the right move to do next. Should I encourage Bubba to talk with either his Gramma or Mama, or should I just tell Bubba it's up to him how to handle it and he needs to discuss his decision with li'l Bubba so he doesn't fly off the handle and confront his Gramma or Great-Gramma?

Man --- I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO glad I was an only child, LOL.