Was I Wrong? : My Thoughts On Sex

[PrezLeefun]

The blue was made after a young girl asked online about whether or not she should have sex with her boyfriend. About 95% of us said don't...others gave unclear answers. I then decided to post about sexual activity particularly in teens. One person challenged what I said. Now tell me what you think.


FOR THE MOST PART A LOT OF YOU OFFERED GREAT ADIVICE IN TELLING THAT YOUNG LADY TO WAIT.

I THINK WE HAVE SERIOUS ISSUES IN THIS COUNTRY WHEN IT COMES TO CHILDREN HAVING CHILDREN, BEING PRESSURED INTO SEX, AND HAVING SEX OUT OF INSECURITY INSTEAD OF LOVE AND COMMITMENT.

CHOOSING TO HAVE SEX IS A BIG DEAL. ITS NOT SOMETHING THAT SHOULD BE TAKEN LIGHTLY. WHEN YOU ARE A TEEN, LIKE THE VAST MAJORITY OF PEOPLE ON THIS BOARD;

THE BEST WAY TO PROTECT YOURSELF IS BY NOT BEING SEXUALLY ACTIVE.

TO THOSE WHO ARE SEXUALLY ACTIVE (THAT INCLUDES ORAL AND ANAL SEX) YOU NEED TO BE EDUCATED AND RESPONISBLE IN ALL YOUR ACTIONS. FURTHERMORE YOU MUST REMEMBER ANYTHING YOU DO IS YOUR CHOICE- NO ONE MAKES YOU DO IT.

YOUR ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES. ANYTHING YOU DO WILL EFFECT YOU IN YOUR LIFE. PREGNANCY, SICKNESS, AND HEARTACHE ARE RESULTS OF SEXUAL ACTIVITY. MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A SECURE A PROPER OUTLET FOR EACH OF THEM. IF EVER YOU HAVE DOUBT; THEN DON'T. YOU SHOULD NOT DOUBT YOUR SEXUAL LIFESTYLE, IF YOU DO THEN CEASE TO HAVE ONE UNTIL YOU ARE SURE AGAIN. FOR YOU OWN PROTECTION.

[dPrasse]

Excellent advice !!

[shawnwood]

I think the person that challenged you is a total idiot! You were not being preachy, you were stating facts and telling this person to make her OWN choices and not be forced into something that society is trying to make seem totally right.

[Nutrider99]

Thell your friends that they should not have sex while they are in high school. When I was in school, girls had MORALS! Dammit!! I was born one generation too soon. Regardless, if I didn't get any of that free stuff, nobody else should. Tell them to wait until they find a man witha good job and a lot of money so that they can take him for all he's got.

That's the American way.

[Teenager]

Good, Prez. One thing I would add, make God your first priority.

[nene]

Respect yourself, always.

[PrezLeefun]

Teen the only reason I did not mention God was for the sake of not being attacked on a religious basis... which is what would have happened if I had mentioned God.

[Teenager]

Teen the only reason I did not mention God was for the sake of not being attacked on a religious basis... which is what would have happened if I had mentioned God.

Yeah, I understand. You did a good job, though.

[PrezLeefun]

thanx

[Nutrider99]

The best way is to save sex, all sex, for the one you marry.
1. You'll experience the joys of discovery with someone you love and trust, with whom you wish to share eternity.
2. No STD'S. EVER!
3. No wondering about past lovers.
4. No unwanted babies.
5. No reason for sexual inhabition.
6. Your spouse is the best lover you ever had.
7. God wants it that way.
8. You'll respect each other more.
9. Love and sex will be forever intermingled.
10. You can look your daughter in the eye and say, "Yes, you CAN wait until you are married."

[PrezLeefun]

<TABLE cellSpacing=1 cellPadding=3 width="90%" align=center border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>This is by the snob who challenged me. My statements are in blue hers are in green.


Leefun8705 wrote:
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</SPAN><TABLE cellSpacing=1 cellPadding=3 width="90%" align=center border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>HPskafanNJ wrote:</TD></TR><TR><TD class=quote>
</SPAN><TABLE cellSpacing=1 cellPadding=3 width="90%" align=center border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>Leefun8705 wrote:</TD></TR><TR><TD class=quote>I THINK WE HAVE SERIOUS ISSUES IN THIS COUNTRY WHEN IT COMES TO . . . BEING PRESSURED INTO SEX . . . . </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><TABLE cellSpacing=1 cellPadding=3 width="90%" align=center border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>Quote:</TD></TR><TR><TD class=quote>FURTHERMORE YOU MUST REMEMBER ANYTHING YOU DO IS YOUR CHOICE- NO ONE MAKES YOU DO IT. </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>Hmmm . . . http://www.the-n.com/mb/images/smiles/icon_confused.gif
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why the hmmmmmm.... whatcha' thinkin'?
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The two parts I quoted contradict each other.

If someone is pressuring someone else to do something, a certain amount of coercion is involved. It's ultimately the decision of the person doing the coercing, not the person doing the action. Example: An uncle wants to have sex with his 12-year-old niece. He leads her to an empty room and gropes her and tells her to do some sexual things. She says something like, "Isn't sex for grown-ups?" The uncle says, "Don't worry about it. It's okay since I'm a grown-up. Besides, this isn't really sex." After being reassured that everything was fine (obviously, everything is not fine) she WILLINGLY does something sexual with her uncle. If her uncle answered with "Yes. Sex is only for grown-ups. I'm actually eager to molest you, which is illegal," I don't think she would willingly do something with her uncle.

Although I agree with your opinion as expressed in accordance with the senario; that was not what I was speaking of.

I was speaking about pressure from society which is different than pressure from an individual.
Being pressured by society is being pressured by many individuals.