Tip for Those Who Lack Tact

[TechnoPrincess]

NEVER ask someone when they are due if you are not 100% sure that she is pregnant. And if she tells you that she is not, DO NOT keep asking...and laughing. This can be hazardous to your health.

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[Melz]

Did someone do that to you?? Ack!

[TechnoPrincess]

Did someone do that to you?? Ack!

Yes, a coworker. And while I'm not thin, I'm a size 16, so it's not like I'm that big either. And...well...there are rather sensative issues that cause some of the weight gain...

[Antigone]

The people that do this sort of thing.......just never learn. They keep doing it over, and over and over again.

[Melz]

How sad Techno, and honestly, I think that sometimes people do that sort of thing knowing that the person is not pregnant. They are mean hateful people, and they are out there. But most can tell who is pregnant and wouldn't ask at all unless they knew them to be so. I am sorry you had to put up with such crap dear :(

[DoctorDoom]

Since I had my tact gland surgically removed and the tact gene deleted from my DNA in 1962, when I began newspaper-letters-column writing, I have no concept of what being tactful entails. OTOH, when dealing with liberals, that's a decided asset.

[TechnoPrincess]

Since I had my tact gland surgically removed and the tact gene deleted from my DNA in 1962, when I began newspaper-letters-column writing, I have no concept of what being tactful entails. OTOH, when dealing with liberals, that's a decided asset.


Then take note of this...because it is very bad form to do such a thing..

[TechnoPrincess]

How sad Techno, and honestly, I think that sometimes people do that sort of thing knowing that the person is not pregnant. They are mean hateful people, and they are out there. But most can tell who is pregnant and wouldn't ask at all unless they knew them to be so. I am sorry you had to put up with such crap dear :(
Thanks

[MSGT]

OK, I'll be for the defense.


I have the worst case of athlete's tongue. I mean no harm but I at times say the dumbest things. I usually catch on quick after the fact but it is too late then.

[UhUhNoWay]

Techno...first make sure you didn't misread the situation, sometimes the things we are most insecure about makes us take things wrong...but...if you know know know she was being a hateful bizatch... turning the other cheek with her won't work, you'll have to zing her back with her own brand of venom, and it's best if it is in front of people. Say it sweetly, and smile, and walk away. She probably won't bother you ever again, and I suspect anyone else that she has humiliated will think you are a hero, and may also start standing up for themselves. If you are like me...I know you already started thinking up things you wished you would have said, or wish you could go back and say...if she is a hateful bizatch, you'll get another chance...be ready LOL

[TechnoPrincess]

OK, I'll be for the defense.


I have the worst case of athlete's tongue. I mean no harm but I at times say the dumbest things. I usually catch on quick after the fact but it is too late then.

But after the woman said "Ummm...I'm not pregnant"...would you keep saying "No, really when are you due?" and giggling three more times. She is lucky we were at work or I would have really unloaded on her...

[TechnoPrincess]

Techno...first make sure you didn't misread the situation, sometimes the things we are most insecure about makes us take things wrong...but...if you know know know she was being a hateful bizatch... turning the other cheek with her won't work, you'll have to zing her back with her own brand of venom, and it's best if it is in front of people. Say it sweetly, and smile, and walk away. She probably won't bother you ever again, and I suspect anyone else that she has humiliated will think you are a hero, and may also start standing up for themselves. If you are like me...I know you already started thinking up things you wished you would have said, or wish you could go back and say...if she is a hateful bizatch, you'll get another chance...be ready LOL

I don't know if she was trying to be mean, but after the THIRD time I said no...I don't understand why she had to ask one more time...and the giggling just about sent me over the top!! I have extra weight in the middle from two miscarraiges in less than two years and from cervical cancer treatments and surgery...it's not like I want to broadcast it to the world.
The last time I just told her "I am not pregnant, nor could I be right now. So please drop the questions and the damn giggling right now!" Little did I know her Director was about three feet behind us...he immediatly took her off in some other direction and apparently she got in trouble. But GEEZ...I mean to make a mistake is one thing...but if someone tells you they're not pregnant...they probably aren't. Turn red, mumble some appology and walk away!!

[UhUhNoWay]

Maybe she is just dippy and thought you were tryin to be stealth about your pregnancy, which would also explain the incessant giggling....good for her for getting taken aside, maybe the director gave her a lesson in stickin with business during business hours. Hopefully you won't have to worry about that again, but...I'd still come up with some snappy sassy comebacks, its always good to be prepared. LOL :whistle:

[Wolfcounsel]

"But after the woman said "Ummm...I'm not pregnant"...would you keep saying "No, really when are you due?" and giggling three more times." --TechnoPrincess


The next time, look at her, stick your forefinger up one of your nostrils about a quarter inch, take it out and ask her if she thinks you are in labor, then in that little distracting question, stick your MIDDLE finger in your mouth and pretend that the "thing" you pulled out is delicious. That should either shut her up, make her nauseated, or make her go babbling to others that you eat boogers. You go around only once in life. Have fun.

[TechnoPrincess]

Maybe she is just dippy and thought you were tryin to be stealth about your pregnancy, which would also explain the incessant giggling....good for her for getting taken aside, maybe the director gave her a lesson in stickin with business during business hours. Hopefully you won't have to worry about that again, but...I'd still come up with some snappy sassy comebacks, its always good to be prepared. LOL :whistle:

One of my other coworkers, who was mortified by the whole thing, said I should have come back "No, I'm not pregnant - I'm just fat...but thank you for making me feel better about it!"

[PrezLeefun]

Oh techno.....hon dont sweat it. I have gotten BS like that before. Just ask if they are pregnant...it usually shuts them up.

[TechnoPrincess]

Oh techno.....hon dont sweat it. I have gotten BS like that before. Just ask if they are pregnant...it usually shuts them up. :hahaha: I hadn't even thought of that!! In this case it would have been funny because she is bigger than I am!

[PrezLeefun]

awwwwwww lol. i am happy that cheered you up. Condsider it for the future.

[Longhorn_Platinum]

:unsmile: Here's one that just gets on my last nerve. I hate it when people think they can distinguish the genders of newborn babies, just by looking. Oh, it's so simple to them. The ugly ones are boys, & the pretty ones are girls. Right after Xane was born, we had him in a baby carriër on top of a table at IHOP, & some guy came up to tell me what a beautiful girl he was. I told him THREE times, "it's a boy", but he kept on calling Xane a girl. Had he not gone away when he had, I was getting ready to give him a piece of my mind. His initial assumption was stupid enough, but to keep at it after being told he was wrong, was just inexcusable.

[TechnoPrincess]

:unsmile: Here's one that just gets on my last nerve. I hate it when people think they can distinguish the genders of newborn babies, just by looking. Oh, it's so simple to them. The ugly ones are boys, & the pretty ones are girls. Right after Xane was born, we had him in a baby carriër on top of a table at IHOP, & some guy came up to tell me what a beautiful girl he was. I told him THREE times, "it's a boy", but he kept on calling Xane a girl. Had he not gone away when he had, I was getting ready to give him a piece of my mind. His initial assumption was stupid enough, but to keep at it after being told he was wrong, was just inexcusable.

LOL! I have had this same experience. My ex and I both have naturally curly hair, so my son's curls beautifully if it's at all long and he sweats. He's now 7, very much a boy, and if I don't keep his hair in a buzz cut I get told what a cute girl I have