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01-03-2008, 11:42 AM
FOXSexpert: Is Your Sex Life Normal?
Wednesday, January 02, 2008
By Yvonne. K. Fulbright
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Sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright
Freaky, kinky, bizarre, abnormal, weird, disturbing … Do those terms describe your sex life? If you're like most people, then probably not.
I’ve been answering people’s questions about sex and relationships for years, with the most popular question, by far: "Am I normal?"
When it comes to sexual expression, people are very curious and concerned about just how well they fit in with the "average" Joe when it comes to their sexual desires, fantasies, practices, etc.
So it is with great glee that the popular press likes to crank out sex questionnaires or the latest sex/relationship survey data. It knows that readers jump on publications that can help them sort through whether or not they’re normal or maybe just a little risqué when it comes to what pleasures them sexually.
While I would warn anyone to take any results with a grain of salt, we can learn a lot about what people are into, or not, from the info a well-conducted survey gathers about people’s sexual attitudes, behaviors and values.
Surveys help to debunk myths, like this one: "Men think about sex every seven seconds." According to the Kinsey report Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, 54 percent of men think about sex every day or several times a day; 43 percent think about it a few times a week or month; and 4 percent think of it less than once a month. With just under 50 percent of men not thinking about sex once a day, one sex thought every 7 seconds is a bit of a stretch, isn’t it?
Surveys allow us to better assess stereotypes, for better or for worse. For example, is "No, dear, not tonight," the most overused phrase by American women? It turns out that when a woman enters a secure relationship, her sex drive does take a nosedive.
A German study found that four years into a secure relationship, fewer than half of female participants desired regular sex. After 20 years, only 20 percent wanted sex on a regular basis. A male’s libido, on the other hand, stayed steady no matter how long they’d been in a relationship.
Other cool things surveys tell us:
— How long is the average sexual encounter? According to a Psychology Today article, it’s 3 to 10 minutes.
— What is your favorite sexual position? A survey by Marie Claire and Esquire magazines found that men are into rear entry, while women like missionary best.
— How many times per week are people having sex? Of the more than 1,700 people 21 to 49 years old who were surveyed by Long Island-based market research company Beta Research Corp., 90 percent of American men and 94 percent of women are having sex up to five times per week. (Note: it’s the "up to" part of that survey that makes for the high percentages. Plus, sexually active people may be likelier to participate in this kind of survey)....http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,319689,00.html
Wednesday, January 02, 2008
By Yvonne. K. Fulbright
http://www.foxnews.com/images/332300/0_61_yvonnecouch320.gif
Sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright
Freaky, kinky, bizarre, abnormal, weird, disturbing … Do those terms describe your sex life? If you're like most people, then probably not.
I’ve been answering people’s questions about sex and relationships for years, with the most popular question, by far: "Am I normal?"
When it comes to sexual expression, people are very curious and concerned about just how well they fit in with the "average" Joe when it comes to their sexual desires, fantasies, practices, etc.
So it is with great glee that the popular press likes to crank out sex questionnaires or the latest sex/relationship survey data. It knows that readers jump on publications that can help them sort through whether or not they’re normal or maybe just a little risqué when it comes to what pleasures them sexually.
While I would warn anyone to take any results with a grain of salt, we can learn a lot about what people are into, or not, from the info a well-conducted survey gathers about people’s sexual attitudes, behaviors and values.
Surveys help to debunk myths, like this one: "Men think about sex every seven seconds." According to the Kinsey report Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, 54 percent of men think about sex every day or several times a day; 43 percent think about it a few times a week or month; and 4 percent think of it less than once a month. With just under 50 percent of men not thinking about sex once a day, one sex thought every 7 seconds is a bit of a stretch, isn’t it?
Surveys allow us to better assess stereotypes, for better or for worse. For example, is "No, dear, not tonight," the most overused phrase by American women? It turns out that when a woman enters a secure relationship, her sex drive does take a nosedive.
A German study found that four years into a secure relationship, fewer than half of female participants desired regular sex. After 20 years, only 20 percent wanted sex on a regular basis. A male’s libido, on the other hand, stayed steady no matter how long they’d been in a relationship.
Other cool things surveys tell us:
— How long is the average sexual encounter? According to a Psychology Today article, it’s 3 to 10 minutes.
— What is your favorite sexual position? A survey by Marie Claire and Esquire magazines found that men are into rear entry, while women like missionary best.
— How many times per week are people having sex? Of the more than 1,700 people 21 to 49 years old who were surveyed by Long Island-based market research company Beta Research Corp., 90 percent of American men and 94 percent of women are having sex up to five times per week. (Note: it’s the "up to" part of that survey that makes for the high percentages. Plus, sexually active people may be likelier to participate in this kind of survey)....http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,319689,00.html