BarryC
02-10-2008, 02:40 AM
First the story, which will explain what I'm asking.
When I was 15 (I'm 44 now), I had a girlfriend, one of 3 in a row I had back then. Her name was Brenda. First let me say, there was no sex, or even thoughts of such a thing, believe it or not. Holding her hand was like Heaven to me. Anyway, she and I were in the same grade in school. I was 15 and she was 17, because she was left back one year in elementary school, before I knew her. We were both in the Christian school I've mentioned before. She lived in a family with a mother who was a Christian, but a father who was not. Also her little sister was a Christian, but her big brother was not. The non-Christians in the family smoked, drank and cursed regularly, and made it hard on the Christians in the family. One day during the winter when there was lots of snow, her mother was walking down the street near her home, and was struck and killed by a snow plow. Sometime later, maybe months later, she didn't show up in school one day. After a couple days my mom found out that she had attempted suicide, and her father had caught her in the act, just in time, and then had her committed. My mom found out what hospital she was in and took me to see her. I brought a card and a little gift. But we found out that she was not allowed to have visitors. We asked if someone could give her the card and gift, but I don't think she ever got them.
I never saw her, or heard news about her ever again. In fact no one I knew ever heard about her ever again.
I really enjoyed being with her, and when we went roller skating, and I got to hold her hand, that was like Heaven. She felt the same way about me. After her mom died she used to say that if her mom were alive she would let her stay at my parents house, just to get away from her non-Christian father and brother.
So anyway, nearly 30 years later, we now have the Internet and so forth. So I was thinking that maybe there's a way to find her. If she were a guy it would be easier because there would be little or no chance of her name getting changed because of a marriage or whatever. Over the years I have thought about her on occasion. So now I'm wondering, with all the Internet has to offer, how can I find her? I figure by asking on these forums I may be able to get many different ideas, since there are so many members here. So what do you think about the feasibility of finding her? What do you think are possibilities of what became of her over the years? For example do you think she was let out of the hospital after a certain amount of time? Maybe it would have been a short-term thing when she was in. I don't know.
Thanks for your help.
Barry
When I was 15 (I'm 44 now), I had a girlfriend, one of 3 in a row I had back then. Her name was Brenda. First let me say, there was no sex, or even thoughts of such a thing, believe it or not. Holding her hand was like Heaven to me. Anyway, she and I were in the same grade in school. I was 15 and she was 17, because she was left back one year in elementary school, before I knew her. We were both in the Christian school I've mentioned before. She lived in a family with a mother who was a Christian, but a father who was not. Also her little sister was a Christian, but her big brother was not. The non-Christians in the family smoked, drank and cursed regularly, and made it hard on the Christians in the family. One day during the winter when there was lots of snow, her mother was walking down the street near her home, and was struck and killed by a snow plow. Sometime later, maybe months later, she didn't show up in school one day. After a couple days my mom found out that she had attempted suicide, and her father had caught her in the act, just in time, and then had her committed. My mom found out what hospital she was in and took me to see her. I brought a card and a little gift. But we found out that she was not allowed to have visitors. We asked if someone could give her the card and gift, but I don't think she ever got them.
I never saw her, or heard news about her ever again. In fact no one I knew ever heard about her ever again.
I really enjoyed being with her, and when we went roller skating, and I got to hold her hand, that was like Heaven. She felt the same way about me. After her mom died she used to say that if her mom were alive she would let her stay at my parents house, just to get away from her non-Christian father and brother.
So anyway, nearly 30 years later, we now have the Internet and so forth. So I was thinking that maybe there's a way to find her. If she were a guy it would be easier because there would be little or no chance of her name getting changed because of a marriage or whatever. Over the years I have thought about her on occasion. So now I'm wondering, with all the Internet has to offer, how can I find her? I figure by asking on these forums I may be able to get many different ideas, since there are so many members here. So what do you think about the feasibility of finding her? What do you think are possibilities of what became of her over the years? For example do you think she was let out of the hospital after a certain amount of time? Maybe it would have been a short-term thing when she was in. I don't know.
Thanks for your help.
Barry