What is this thing Called... Love?

[Rink]

Does anyone here understand what Love is about?

All those crazy conflicting feelings? scarey yet exiting? do any of you understand ANY of it? And can one ever get used to it eventually?

Does the feelings of vulnerability and intense emotions ever able to be understood?

Anyone wanna weight in on this?

Cuz I really dont understand it one darned bit.

[Wyatt_Junker]

Love is a sword that one thrusts into one's gut.

[Beowulf]

I'll probably only confuse you more but love means different things to different people. It's not something you plan for, it just happens. It's also something that if you seek to hard for you often come up with nothing and disappointed.

It is wonderful yet cruel. You can spend years with a person whom you genuinely care about, start a family, keep a home only to have something go wrong and that person just up and leaves.

For me personally, it's just having the deepest of feelings for someone. You always worry about them and they are always on your mind. Even after a bad fight or through a hard time, those feelings are still there.

Rink, you say you don't understand it. No one ever does. Love is a tricky thing and often leaves you only confused. When you really ARE in love with someone, you'll just know.

[Rink]

I wasnt even lookin when I got bit hard.

just never saw it comin. an it feels so right, but it also scares the hell outta me.

[Beowulf]

And that, Rink, is how it most often happens. Suddenly and hard. Hope it works out. You deserve someone in your life.

[Rink]

Thanks Beo.

[Peachdiane]

Ah! You got bit!

Love goes beyond the physical because it sees not with the eyes but with the heart. If you need to ask someone "Do you think I'm in love?" then I doubt you are!

When you are in love you feel it in your heart. It's part of you, and well, you will just know. You can't pretend because it doesn't work. Love is just made up of many small things, and many feelings that can be very complex; two main ones being complete happiness and pain.

I think love is one thing that hurts when you are in it and when you aren't. When you are near the person because you love, it hurts because you care so deeply for them; and when you aren't near the person you feel a hurt that is completely indescribable.

Congrats though..... that old saying is true, "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." You would never have known what it's like to truly experience love because no one can tell you. It can't be fully explained. You need to experience the joy... and the hurt for yourself.

[DoctorDoom]

From a Dec 26, 2000 post by VTY on another BB...



One concept that I've always had a great problem with is "falling in love", as though it's a pit or a trap. "Love at first sight" is piffle. If there's anything at first sight, it's lust, a purely physical reaction to appearance and demeanor.

I submit that one does not fall in love. One grows in love. Love isn't something that can be turned on like a light. It starts as a seed, and like any seed it must be planted, watered, nurtured and tended to constantly as it develops into maturity.

How often does it happen that some young, hormone-driven dude or dudette says, "Oh WOW! You like the Rolling stones AND ER? We were made for each other. Let's get married!" They tie the knot and six months later it's divorce court time.

Whatever happened to the honorable art of courting, getting to really know a person's good AND bad points before making a life-changing decision?

Whatever happened to walking, talking, holding hands, enjoying the world and the presence of the other person? Whatever happened to the concept of letting a relationship develop at its own pace, and patiently waiting for the realization that this one is indeed the one with whom to spend a lifetime?

There is so much divorce because there is so little patience. We've become a McDonald's-oriented society where everything has to be decided right now. This might be good for lunch, but NOT for choosing the man or woman with whom to share the future.

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Real love takes time and effort and commitment and compromise and patience. It takes a willingness to forgive. It takes an understanding that there will never be perfection, because we are all fallibly human.

Real love knows that life together will not always be roses and lollipops and happiness, and that troubles will happen. But, real love provides the resolve to pass through those trials and hardship together, standing by each other, supporting each other.

There will be conflicts, misunderstandings, arguments. These are inevitable because we are merely people. But, as Paul wrote to the Ephesians, don't let the sun go down on your wrath. Don't wait for an apology. Offer one. Life is far too short to waste it in anger toward that one to whom you've pledged your life.

Real love requires thinking more of your spouse than of yourself. It means wanting him or her to be happy, satisfied and fulfilled. It means desiring the best for him or her even if it means sacrificing one's own desires.

Real love is what allows a gentle touch or a smile to speak a thousand words. Real love is saying "I love you!" with the understanding that your loved one doesn't need to hear it to know it. Real love is growing old together, with the mere presence of the other providing all one needs to be content with life.

Above all, real love means that you love your husband or wife more today than you did yesterday, and that tomorrow the love will be greater still. Love that does not grow fades and dies. There should not be one day when you cannot truthfully tell your beloved, "I love you more now than ever."

God bless, all!

[DesertFox]

Except when she's tying up the bathroom.

[CatKozTX]

http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/icon133.gif DF! That's why you need more bathrooms! Problem solved!

Great post Doc! The things worth a damn in life are not easy - I believe that is true in marriage as well.

I have only been married 14 years, which I guess by today's standards is pretty good. It was not love at first sight. We were friends first and foremost and our love grew from there over the course of several years. Our relationship hasn't always been easy. We have had disagreements, we have had arguments and there have been some rough days, though they have been few and far between. But even during those rough days, we BOTH know we love each other and are willing to work through anything that comes our way because we are BOTH committed to making it work.

The problems start when both spouses don't adhere to the values Doc so eloquently set forth! It takes committment on the part of both parties. When one party gives up, becomes abusive, etc., there's not much you can do to save the marriage, short of living in an untolerable situation. http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/sad.gif I think the best thing you can do at that point is pick yourself up, consider it a lesson learned, and move on.

[Peachdiane]

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Except when she's tying up the bathroom.

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Thank you Doc and Cat for giving me some laughs and a lot to think about!

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[dPrasse]

Hi Rink !

I'll add my two cents here ......

I always hear that Love is blind ....

I don't believe that .....

Love sees all and accepts any "faults" as part of their partners personna ....

Lust , Loneliness and fear are blind ..... the cover up the "no-go " red flags .....

dP
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[Peachdiane]

Well now I've always wondered if love was blind, why is lingerie so popular?

OTOH there is a joke:

I heard the story once of a young groom who asked the preacher, on the day of the wedding, what he charged for his services. The preacher said, "Pay me according to the beauty of your bride." When the wedding was over the preacher was a little dismayed when the groom handed him only two dollars. So, the preacher lifted the veil of the bride, gently lowered it and gave the young man a dollar back in change.

I think as dP says, real love sees all and accepts anyway. http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif

[FluffyDoomBunny]

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Rink said:
Does anyone here understand what Love is about?

All those crazy conflicting feelings? scarey yet exiting? do any of you understand ANY of it? And can one ever get used to it eventually?

Does the feelings of vulnerability and intense emotions ever able to be understood?

Anyone wanna weight in on this?

Cuz I really dont understand it one darned bit.

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Love is what God herself cursed us men with to teach us that the woman is, has been, and always will be in charge.

[Rink]

um LOL I am a woman !!

[FluffyDoomBunny]

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Rink said:
um LOL I am a woman !!

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Then its not love...it's called jam a stake in his heart and twist it whenever you want something http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif

[DesertFox]

LOL

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[Rink]

ROTF!!... You Slay Me!

[Beowulf]

And all my wife has to do is start in with a case of the sup-sups and whining a little to make me cave! Bunny, please, put the stake away!

[ATACCRAzy]

u guys kill me! my wife and i have been married for 10 yrs this dec. we knew each other for a total of 1 month b4 we got married, and we have had our ups and downs as does most marriages. but even during the downs i wouldnt change her for anything in the world.


ps. the preacher gave me a 5 back! hehe J/k

[Beowulf]

Gotcha beat, Bro. Been married to mine for 14 yrs, knew her for 7 before that and if the money was right.............. http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif

Nah! I love her to much to be mean to her!

[Rink]

Can being in love be THIS painful when your loved one is so far away?

Sometimes it can hurt pretty hard.

I Made this poem long before I fell in love, but its so prophetic:

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Love makes you blind they say
Love understands
Love cares
Love is giving
Love is unselfish
Love is wonderful
Love is unpredictable
Love hurts deep.
Love can elevate to the highest mountaintops
Love is ecstatic
And terrible,
It is a mystery, love is.
We talk about it,
Sing about it.
Dream about it.
Read about it.

Love...
Gorgeous... wonderful... adoring... sensuous...
Love.


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[SouthernReBelle]

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What is this thing Called... Love?

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I remember Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin said it best:

Frank: What is this thing called love?

Dean: If you don't know then we're all dead. D-E-D!

heather

[BEST45CAL]

Love ain't a feeling. If it was, I'd be in love with every good lookin' <font color="red">redhead</font> on planet earth. For that matter, any good lookin' woman! LOL

Love is simple: It's accepting someone for who they happen to be. This type of affection ultimately leads to devotion to that person.

Look at James Carville and Mary Matalin. Two opposites, yet they are willing to accept each other despite their differences.

Love at first sight is B.S. That is really nothing more than "lust at first sight." That's a human's natural mating instinct kicking in. Where we humans differ from animals, is that despite how good someone appears to our senses, we can be turned off by their personality.

If you can no longer find it in your heart to accept someone for who they are, the love is gone.

[Rink]

I've already accepted him for what he is, I dont wanna change one Iota of him, cuz I like him as he is, with all the problems, quirks and personality that he has.

I just dont understand why sometimes its gotta hurt so much for, thats all.

[Beowulf]

And most likely you never will.

[Wyatt_Junker]

What is love? Even the question reeks of a bad disco song.

It may be easier to answer that question based on a negative.

What love isn't.
http://www.soulwalking.co.uk/%A5Artist%20GIF%20Images/Ike-And-Tina-Turner-99.jpg
Ike was a disciplinarian. All perfectionists are extreme. It was said that when he was vocal training Tina, in order for her to hit the high notes, he practised Akido on her wrist joints. Very effective by the way.

Human "love" is an organism. Like two cars hitting head-on, the results can be murderous. And not pretty.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/olmedia/1045000/images/_1049597_whit150.jpg
Much like Ike and Tina a generation before, the similarities are more than eerie.

It was only after the introduction of Bobby Brown that Whiteny started to thin out. And even her features began to look like a mud duck.
http://www.stavangeravisen.com/images/arkiv/p20021007033519.jpg

Outward displays of affection become more and more like the craven and hypnotic relationship a pusher has upon his clientele.
http://www.classicwhitney.com/images/whbb0028.JPG

The emptiness inside all of us!

Pathetic creatures really. Our demons pursue us if not evicted from our soul. And with two people, things can be magnified. The need each person brings to the table. Most times, a balancing is reached where one person becomes the savior and the other the saved. A fixer and the fixed.

But, in Whitney and Bobby's case, both held onto the bottom feeder role, like an irregular wheel, taking on a kind of deformed roll. A bumpy ride. Whitney swore that "Crack is just so whack" even as Diane Swayer bit her quivering lip. And Bobby sat there, his upper lip whettened, batting at his moist forehead with a hankey like a slow-drip PVC sprinkler.

And here was the diva who sang practically all her songs on the very question of this thread. What is this thing Called... Love? Her voice peaking into vibrato at near orgasmic levels. "...and iiiiiiiiiiiii will alwaaaaays luuuuuuuuv yooouuuu..." Her voice dropping, rising and then dropping again like a leaf blower connected to a Mexican's trigger finger.

[BEST45CAL]

There is a fine line between love and idiocy.

[Wyatt_Junker]

'Member mullet-boy?
http://img.yupimsn.com/canales/entretenimiento/temas/cumpleanos/michael_bolton.jpg
What did this musical shaman teach us about love?

From the cretin's first 1991 album, here are some song titles:

Love Is A Wonderful Thing
Time, Love And Tenderness
Missing You Now
Forever Isn't Long Enough
Now That I Found You
When A Man Loves A Woman
We're Not Making Love Anymore
New Love
Save Me
Steel Bars

Then this rebel cuts off his mane to become an everyman.
http://www.theconversationcompany.com/images/new%20bios/boltoncolorbio.jpg

While things change drastically outwardly, nuttin much changes on the tour circuit. Still a big hit among the ladies over fifty crowd. The new shorn Bolton, can pack in a Lion's Club to full capacity these days. And still can work a room, handing out backstage V.I.P.s to some of the cuter geriatrics with overall higher bone densities.

The man's still conning widows and divorcees. Still flippantly flinging the Love word around. Still cashing those royalty checks, although they are more of a trickle these days.

Love, very simply put, is whatever you want it to be from man's limited perspective. It can sell records. Or tricks on the street.

Love is so used.

I feel bad for love. Its got a bad rap. People today "fall" in love as passively as a drunk driver behind the wheel going over a cliff. Indeed, falling in love is like getting into a bad accident, blinded by air bags deploying all around you and waking up to a head wound like a hangover...as the person you trip over also bangs her head mercilessly upon yours like a dumb wind-up toy. Like Nick and Jessica. People with perfect teeth, abs and asses. People who don't fart. When good-looking people kiss its like two handfuls of cotton candy mashing into each other. In today's world love is supposed to taste like sugar. It'll rot your teeth and send you into a diabetic sleep.

[Rink]

dunno this 'mullet-boy'

[Peachdiane]

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Wyatt_Junker said:
Like Nick and Jessica. People with perfect teeth, abs and asses. People who don't fart. When good-looking people kiss its like two handfuls of cotton candy mashing into each other. In today's world love is supposed to taste like sugar. It'll rot your teeth and send you into a diabetic sleep.

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ROFL! Wyatt you are some else. You HAD to mention Nick and Jessica! She is something else! Wondered aloud if a brand of tinned tuna called CHICKEN OF THE SEA was actually made of chicken or tuna and when someone offered her buffalo wings she said "No I don't eat buffalo."

Then she admits, "After I say things, I'm like, 'Oops!' I know I'm smart; I just don't think before I talk." Now when she walks through the airport, 50-year-old men scream, 'Is that chicken or tuna?'"

(Now come on you Freecer men--- I thought you were above that!) http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/rotflmbo.gif

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Love ain't a feeling. If it was, I'd be in love with every good lookin' redhead on planet earth

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I love you man! http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/jk.gif You left yourself open for that one!

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Love is simple: It's accepting someone for who they happen to be. This type of affection ultimately leads to devotion to that person.

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Man, you nailed it right there Beastie!

Rink, I hear ya, I really do! Long distance is a BEAST. I have a male friend who says he's not dating ANYONE who isn't local, ever. No ma'am! Long distance is just too hard! But you know what? There are some who made it. Just hang on to your connections and be there as much as possible. If you're into support groups, there's one here (http://www.lovingyou.com/content/groups/online/) for online/long distance and some of it is real cheesy but some helps. They even have true stories. Hang in there! http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/sailor.gif http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif

[DoctorDoom]

Love is highly overrated.

[DesertFox]

...but interesting.

[kathrinM]

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Love is highly overrated.

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is it? elaborate on that. http://freeconservatives.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/icon127.gif

[SouthernReBelle]

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While things change drastically outwardly, nuttin much changes on the tour circuit. Still a big hit among the ladies over fifty crowd. The new shorn Bolton, can pack in a Lion's Club to full capacity these days. And still can work a room, handing out backstage V.I.P.s to some of the cuter geriatrics with overall higher bone densities.

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The man sings like he's constipated. Sorry, I never found him sexy.

heather

[Rink]

I never listened to Bolton
so I wouldnt know...